Sunday, August 29, 2010

Set Boundaries And Free Yourself!

I was recently given a book on the Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner, how to make yourself irresistible.. ! :)

Its really quite interesting actually, so going to share some of my favourite parts of the book.

Every one has needs:
Being needy is not the same as having needs. Unfulfilled needs manifest as neediness and unfortunately neediness is mostly observed in romantic relationships! One person cannot fulfill your needs, this task needs to be spread out among your family and friends and people who already love you besides the man/ woman in your life..:)

The best way to get your needs fulfilled is to specifically ask for what ever it is you need. I recently asked for emotional support from my family and was amazed at how much love was showered on me!

An unfulfilled need is the result of weak boundaries:
People cannot hit me, people cannot be rude to me, people cannot take advantage of me, etc are some example of boundaries.
The first thing to realise when people cross one of your boundaries is that you have allowed them to do so. People have different boundaries, it helps if you inform them of yours by telling them gently at the first infraction.

Boundaries are not about controlling other people, people will do what they want. Its a way of teaching other people how to treat you. Boundaries help us to protect ourself and choose the environment we stay in.

This is what I liked best of all, it is not appropriate to have a boundary such as "People cannot yell at me", if you are yelling at others. Boundaries help to create standards that we must hold ourselves up to. An opportunity to be aware and grow as human beings...:)

The 4 steps to implementing your boundaries:
1) Inform: that your boundary has been crossed
2) Request: that the offending behavior stop
3) Demand: that the offending behavior stop
4) Leave: without any snappy comebacks or remarks

The trick is to be able to inform, request and demand in a neutral voice, as calmly as you would say the sky is blue!


Monday, August 23, 2010

Unconditional Love

I was in Pune for the weekend. As I was sharing an intimate moment with a friend's cat, I realised that animals offer so much love and trust, that they inspire us to give back in the same way.

Some my clearest, most aware moments have been while bonding with animals.

Sharing some of my animal love stories in this blog post.

In Muscat, there were 2 cats in the apartment complex where I lived, I would often walk around with them, sit by the pool and watch the bats flying around and dipping into the pool every now and then. One of the cats, a very beautiful male used to sit on my chest and purrrrr...aaaah kitty love, best thing in the world!

Small love affairs take place on a regular basis whenever you pass a friendly dog on the road. But Pudding has been my longest relationship. She is just the most beautiful and friendly dog ever. She lives on the street corner near my house. She often comes to visit, have a sponge bath, a snack, some love and a nap. One of my very special moments with her was on an evening just before the rains started when the twilight sky was full of golden clouds creating a very special light on the terrace and making the plants look magical. Pudding and me lay on our backs arms, legs, and paws lifted up to the sky enveloped in the golden glow... :)

Do share the special moments from your love stories (man, woman, child, animal or plant!) with us... Give energy to love and it will grow.